Last week, we explored the value of gratitude and why it is essential for children and teens to learn it. This week, we turn our focus to another crucial trait that children must develop—one that will serve them well into adulthood. That trait is resilience.
What is resilience?
Resilience is the ability to bounce back from adversities, adapting to challenges, setbacks, and difficulties. Simply put, it is staying strong in tough times, learning from failures, and continuing to move forward despite obstacles. With the highly stressful academic demands that children face today, resilience is a crucial skill. In a world where social interactions are increasingly shifting online, resilience can also help children navigate relationships and overcome difficulties in their social lives.
How can we teach children to be resilient?
Here are some simple yet effective ways to start:
First, teach children that failures and mistakes are part of learning. Praise their effort rather than just their success so they see challenges as opportunities to grow rather than reasons to quit. When children understand that setbacks are stepping stones to success, they become more motivated to keep trying.
Second, allow children to solve their own problems. This does not mean neglecting them, but rather giving them the space to think critically and find their own solutions. Avoid rushing to fix everything for them. When they face difficulties, guide them in thinking through possible solutions instead of providing immediate answers. This builds confidence and problem-solving skills. Be there in the background, offering support while allowing them to take centre stage.
Lastly, help children understand and manage their emotions. Encourage them to talk about their feelings, use deep breathing when upset, and find positive ways to cope with stress. Resilient children are not those who never feel frustration or disappointment but those who learn how to handle these emotions in a healthy way.
Resilience is not built overnight, but with patience, encouragement, and the right mindset, children can develop the strength to face life’s challenges with confidence. By teaching them to embrace failures as learning experiences, solve their own problems, and regulate their emotions, we equip them with a lifelong skill that will serve them well in school, relationships, and future careers. Let’s nurture resilience in our children today so they can stand strong no matter what life throws their way.