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Celebrating a Fruitful Year – MILCHEL Night 2024

MILCHEL Night 2024 is just around the corner, marking an annual tradition where Milchelians and staff come together to reflect on the year that is coming to a close.  This special event, held at the end of the year, serves as a celebration of the kids’ hard work.  It is also an opportunity to look back on the accomplishments we’ve achieved together.  A highlight of the night is a video that showcases the activities we’ve had throughout the year, reinforcing a sense of achievement and unity within our MILCHEL family.

At MILCHEL, we believe that education goes beyond academics and value development.  Events like this play a vital role in our kids’ success, motivating them and giving them something to look forward to after months of hard work.

MILCHEL Night is more than just a party—it holds a deeper purpose.  First and foremost, it’s a celebration of achievements.  On this night, we give out recognitions and awards to acknowledge everyone’s contributions to the hostel community and honour outstanding achievements that reflect the values we teach.  Secondly, it’s an opportunity to practice social skills.  With games and great food, it’s a chance to unwind and enjoy quality time with friends.  Finally, the night serves as a moment of stress relief.  Both students and staff can let their hair down, rewarding themselves for finishing the year strong.

These aspects all contribute to community building and fostering a sense of belonging.  MILCHEL is more than just a place for academics—it is a family.  We aim to strengthen family bonds through this event.

Overall, MILCHEL Night enriches Milchelians’ learning experience in Singapore and strengthens the sense of community among students and staff alike.   We are all looking forward to enjoying the event very soon. 

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Teaching Perseverance: A Key to Lifelong Success for Children

Perseverance is the ability to keep trying and not give up, even when things are difficult or take a long time to achieve.  It is one of Milchel’s 5 Key traits that we endeavour to teach Milchelians.  Perseverance can be trained in kids, and parents play a crucial role in doing this.  This trait is useful to kids as they study, and later on in their adult life as productive members of the society.

Firstly, parents should model perseverance.  Children learn a lot from what they see from their parents.  You can show perseverance by setting goals and working toward them consistently.  You can also share your experiences to your children and highlight those instances when you overcame a difficulty by being perseverant.   

Secondly, guide your child to set challenging but attainable goals.  This need not be only school-related.  This can be in the chores they do at home, or in their other sports or hobbies.  Help them to break their major tasks into smaller steps so that when they experience satisfaction, they will be more motivated to continue towards their goal. 

Finally, you can teach a child perseverance by providing them with opportunities to face challenges. As parents, it is our automatic response to shelter our kids and protect them from difficulties.  However, allowing them to face some difficulties could be helpful.  When they realise that they can overcome challenges by themselves, they learn to be persistent and their confidence grows.

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It’s important to realise, too, that perseverance is not only applicable to studies.  There are many other areas where a child can learn and practise perseverance.  When kids learn perseverance through these non-academic areas, it will naturally transfer to their academic attitude.

Sports, music, and arts are areas that require consistent practice and effort. Skills develop gradually too, instead of instantly.  The perseverance learned through activities in these areas can easily translate to perseverance in academics.

Household chores are also a good training for kids to learn perseverance.  Tasks involved in the household teach kids the importance of finishing a task, no matter how tedious it may be.  It helps them develop a work ethic that is very similar to what they can apply in their academic work. 

When parents consistently encourage perseverance in multiple aspects of their child’s life, they equip the young with the resilience they need to handle academic challenges. They’ll learn that the process of sticking with something, even when it’s hard, is what ultimately leads to success.

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The Power of Academic Goal Setting for Children

Imagine walking into a dark room, fumbling to find your way. Without light, it’s almost impossible to know where you’re going, let alone reach your destination. Goal setting serves as the light that helps our children navigate their academic journey. As parents, it’s our responsibility to help them define these goals, providing guidance and encouragement to ensure they’re heading in the right direction.

Before we delve into the details of this topic, let us first clear out a common misconception about goals and another related concept – aim.  Many of us use these terms interchangeably, but there is actually an important difference between the two.  An aim is just a general intention of what one wants to achieve.  For example: “I want to do well in school.”  On the other hand, a goal is more specific and concrete.  For example, “I want to score 80% in my Science exam.”  In short, an aim is your why, while a goal is your how.  “I want to do well in school so I have to score 80% in my Science exam.”  In other words, both aims and goals are important. 

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Many students have general academic aims, but few have specific goals.  As parents, we must teach students to have specific goals so that they are more guided in their academic journey. 

So why is goal setting important for students?  Goal setting provides a clear direction and motivation.  It is like holding a map or a navigation app that tells you exactly what you need to do to get to your destination.  Goal setting also encourages ownership and responsibility.  It also builds self-confidence and a sense of accomplishment.  As we know, children who take ownership of their goals are more persistent and perseverant. 

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What happens if a student has no academic goals?  The consequences are more dire than one can imagine.  Each day will be directionless with students lacking focus.  There will be problems in time management and self-organisation.  This leads to poor academic performance.  Issues such as tardiness and absenteeism may arise too, for students will have reduced motivation and no sense of purpose.  It will be a challenge for the child to go to school every day.  Furthermore, it will be a challenge for the parents and guardians to guide a student with no academic aims, more so academic goals. 

Goal setting is the key to unlocking your child’s full academic potential. By helping them set clear, attainable goals, we guide their academic progress.  We also teach them valuable life skills that extend far beyond the classroom. With the end-of-year-exams just around the corner, let’s ensure our children are equipped with the tools they need to navigate their educational journey with purpose and confidence.

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How Doing Charity Work Shapes a Child’s Character?

Here in Milchel, all our activities and programs are anchored on our 7 Milchel Core Values and 5 Key Traits.  One of the major activities we have every year, sometimes even multiple times a year, is doing charity work.  This is guided by our core value COMPASSION. 

We believe that doing charity work does not only help the beneficiaries, but also helps develop our children’s character. 

First of all, when children participate in planning and executing a charity work, they learn empathy.  They get exposed to different life situations and struggles.  Because of that, they understand the challenges that other people face.  They also develop a caring attitude as they see the positive impact of their effort on those in need. 

Next, children who participate in charity learn responsibility and accountability.  In a charity event, children are assigned tasks.  Then, they learn to be responsible for their roles in order to contribute to the project at hand.  They learn to be dependable when they realize that their contributions are crucial to the success of a charity event. 

Finally,  children learn gratitude and appreciation when they participate in a charity event.  Witnessing the challenges faced by others fosters a sense of gratitude for one’s own circumstances and resources.  They also learn to appreciate the efforts of others, as well as see the value of community support and generosity. 

Throughout the years, Milchelians have extended help to different beneficiaries.  They have helped elderly individuals, orphans, and troubled teens.  They’ve also helped animals, impoverished communities, and religious group, among others.  Their contributions have gone beyond financial support to include their time, effort, and energy for worthy causes. We are proud of all Milchelians and hope they continue to embrace this compassionate attitude as they grow and mature.

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Character Development and Academic Success

Aside from physical health, there are two other utmost concerns of parents when it comes to their children.  These are their character development and academic success. We all want our children to grow up as good people who possess qualities like kindness, responsibility, and integrity.  At the same time, we hope for their academic success so they can have a bright future ahead of them. This article will explore how character development and academic success are intertwined, with the former influencing the latter.

To delve into this concept, we will examine three character traits that a child must possess and how they contribute to academic success: self-discipline, resilience, and empathy.

First, self-discipline leads to better time management and study habits. Self-disciplined children are more likely to complete their schoolwork on time and balance their academic responsibilities with other aspects of their lives. Overall, consistent effort driven by self-discipline results in improved academic performance.

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Second, resilience helps students persist through difficulties and setbacks they encounter in their studies. When they receive poor grades or fail an exam, resilient children bounce back instead of giving up. A child with a strong sense of resilience views challenges as opportunities for growth, leading to long-term success.

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Finally, empathy enables students to collaborate effectively with their peers. This ability to work well in groups is a crucial skill in today’s academic environment. For instance, group projects and peer learning benefit greatly when students practice understanding and respect. Over time, strong collaborative skills, developed through empathy, contribute to success not only academically but also in future professional settings.

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In conclusion, these are just three examples of how character traits contribute to academic success. Indeed, character development is as important as the grades we see in our children’s report books. Therefore, fostering character development from an early age should be a priority for both parents and educators, as it directly impacts children’s academic success.

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Overcoming Communication Barriers with Your Teen

There are times when a child, especially a teen, stops talking to their parents.  Such withdrawal is concerning and very challenging.  Possible reasons for such behaviour are: the teen is seeking independence; the teen is experiencing emotional changes; the teen is experiencing stress and anxiety and could not express it well; there are conflicts and misunderstandings at home; and the teen may be feeling unsupported or judged and thus shuts other people down. 

When this happens, it is understandable for a parent to be worried.  Still, you have to step back and analyse the situation.  There is no one single solution to this problem, so we’ll talk about a three-pronged approach that could possibly work. 

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First, reflect on your communication style.  We always talk about teens needing to have self-awareness, but parents need to have high self-awareness too. Are you harsh and judgmental when you speak to your teen?  Do you focus too much on the negatives and downplay their achievements?  Are you impatient?  There are times when a child’s actions are just their response to their parents’ actions.  Reflect on your communication style and see if you could be part of the problem. 

Next, after reflecting on your communication style, create a safe and open environment for your child.  Ensure that your home is a safe and judgement-free space where your teen will feel comfortable to talk.  Truly allot time listening to your child.  Keep your gadgets away and give your teen your full attention.  Try not to aim so solve the issue immediately.  Sometimes, it may take a while for your child to really open up.  Patience is key. 

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Finally, if all else fails, it may be time to involve a trusted third party.  It could be your parents or your siblings.  Sometimes, teens may find it easier to open up to someone outside the family.  You can get help from your pastor, a therapist, or a counsellor.  Sometimes, a third party can be like a coach who can see your family issues from a different, unbiased perspective.  They may be able to facilitate you and your child patching up your relationship since they will not be taking anyone’s side. 

Remember, the goal is to reconnect with your teenager and create an environment where they feel safe and valued. While the journey may be challenging, patience, self-reflection, and the willingness to seek external support can make a significant difference. By understanding the underlying reasons for their withdrawal and taking proactive steps, you can rebuild your relationship and foster a more open communication with your teen.

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Goals of Parents and Goals of Children – Reconciling the Gap

A common point of contention between parents and children is their differing goals.  A child may have their own goals and dreams for themselves.  Then, a parent may have a completely different dream for their child.  Reconciling this difference is challenging, but possible.  This article explores the distinction between parents’ goals from children’s goals.  We will also talk about how to bridge that gap and foster a supportive environment with regards to the children’s aspirations. 

Parents’ goals for their children are usually shaped by their life experiences and long-term perspective.  They desire financial stability and focus on providing for the family.  On the other hand, children’s goals are influenced by their immediate interests and curiosity.  Many still desire exploration and play without the burden of providing or planning for the future.  This already shows a vast difference in parents’ and children’s perspectives and priorities. 

Parents’ goals for their children are also usually long-term, including career advancement and future family stability.  On the other hand, children may only have short-term goals, such as making friends, pursuing hobbies, or succeeding in school. 

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In terms of achievement and success, parents’ measures are the over-all well-being of the family, career accomplishments, and contributions to the society.  For children, on the other hand, success is defined through academic achievements, mastering new skills, and other personal milestones.

No one goal is completely better than another.  Both parents and children have valid perspectives.  The goal here is to reconcile the differing goals.  Having open communication is a great way to do this.  Both parents and children should feel comfortable discussing their aspirations and concerns.  Both sides must not only express their thoughts freely, but also listen actively and not be defensive.  Whatever the children eventually decide to pursue, the parents must trust in their children’s discernment, knowing that they had done enough to teach and guide their children. 

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Reconciling the differing goals of parents and children is essential for creating a harmonious family relationship. By fostering open communication, mutual respect, and understanding, both parties can work together to support each other’s aspirations. Parents should trust in their children’s ability to make informed decisions, while children should appreciate the wisdom and experience their parents offer. In this way, families can bridge the gap and build a supportive environment where everyone’s goals are valued and nurtured.

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The Essential Role of Vacations for Students:  Balancing Relaxation and Productivity

Our children face today’s fast-paced and demanding academic environment.  After each term of arduous work in school, vacations play a role in ensuring their over-all well-being and development.  Vacations are not just breaks from routine, but an opportunity for both rest and productive non-academic activities.  These times are well-deserved by students, so it’s important that they are spent wisely.

So, why are vacations important for students?

First, vacations are a time for physical rest.  As the same time, they are also a time for mental rest and stress relief.  This helps prevent burnout and allows students to recharge.  This recharging and relaxation are crucial for their mental well-being.  We’ll also see that vacation breaks allow students to have a refreshed mind, which may lead to better academic performance when school re-opens. 

Next, vacations are a great time for social and family bonding.  Catching up with friends and family which are done on vacations strengthens their relationships and creates lasting memories. This social support offers them emotional stability. 

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Finally, vacations are a time for students to explore interests outside school.  They may have a day or two of just lounging around and doing nothing, but it’s good if they do something more productive.  This may contribute to personal growth and development. 

So, what productive things can they do during their holidays?  We are not talking about tuition and catching up on readings, but other fun, productive, less stressful activities. 

Vacations are an ideal time for enriching hobbies that students are passionate about.  These may be playing musical instruments, trying baking or cooking, doing digital arts, and other similar activities.  These can be both enjoyable and beneficial for personal development. 

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Next, participating in community service or volunteer work can be a great way for students to spend their vacation.  This can be a good bonding moment with family members, too, which allows plenty of teaching moments and opportunities to share one’s insights about life. 

Finally, and probably a favourite of many, travelling to new places can be done during vacations.  Travelling can be an educational experience which exposes students to different cultures.  By travelling, they can both have fun and engage their minds. 

We hope Milchelians are having a fun and productive mid-year break so that they all come back refreshed to start another term! 

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Harnessing the Internet: How Our Children Can Use the Internet Productively

In our previous post, we talked about some of the dangers that our children face online. Now, let’s talk about some of the productive ways our children can use the internet. With our guidance, they can maximize the power of the internet and use it to their advantage in our highly digitally interconnected world.

First of all, the internet is a great educational resource. Our children can access online courses on sites like Khan Academy and Coursera. They can also use educational games and apps to enhance their learning. Online resources can help them improve their math skills or learn a new language. Websites like Google Scholar, National Geographic Kids, and Britannica Kids are excellent options to explore.

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Secondly, the internet is a place where children can enhance their creativity and self-expression. Canva for Education and Wattpad are great sites for creative activities. They can create and share their digital art, writings, and multimedia projects. Starting a blog or YouTube channel can also be a fun way to express themselves. However, adult guidance is still needed for this endeavour.

Thirdly, the internet has made social connections faster and easier. Our children can stay in touch with family and friends. It’s important that they are supervised while using social media and messaging platforms. From Google Hangouts to Zoom, Facebook to Instagram, there are still dangers, so parental supervision is necessary.

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Finally, children can use the internet for career exploration. They can research various career paths and understand the skills required for different jobs. A simple Google search can direct them to numerous helpful sites that provide valuable information about their future careers.

With the right guidance, our children can use the internet safely and productively, turning it into a powerful tool for learning, creativity, connection, and career exploration.

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Responsible Digital Citizenship in Children 

Nowadays, internet is a ubiquitous tool in our lives.  It is widely used in areas like communication and social networking.  It is also used in education, e-commerce and shopping, entertainment, and work and productivity, to name a few.  For both us, adults, and our kids, the internet is a useful tool. 

As such, the world of the internet is also an area where kids need guidance as they use and explore.  The term “responsible digital citizenship” is now being commonly used.  It refers to responsible and ethical online behaviour that we all must practice.  Doing this helps us to have a healthy and safe experience in the digital world. 

There are many reasons why we parents should teach our children responsible digital citizenship.  In this article, we will talk about the most cause of concern for growing kids. 

First, addiction to gadgets and the internet is a major concern of many parents.  Excessive screen time affects children’s sleep, academics, and over-all habits, so this is a foremost concern that parents must address.  If left unchecked, this could lead to addiction that is much difficult to correct.

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Second is the spread of misinformation.  Without our guidance, children can access volumes of information online that may be untrue or just plain harmful.  It is our responsibility as adults to block suspicious sites and sources of information.  We must also teach our kids to be discerning in what they see online.  Keep an open communication so your child knows to ask you for things that they find out online.

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Finally, children must know that their actions online leave permanent digital footprint.  Educate them about the consequences of their online actions that may harm themselves or others.  A seemingly harmless post today may have consequences in the future.  Because of this, we must always remind our children to “think before you click”.

These are just some of the dangers awaiting our children online.  These are also why we should take a proactive role in educating our kids about responsible digital citizenship.  Sometimes, we parents become too relaxed in our children’s access to the internet.  This is a very serious matter that demands our watchful guidance.  Take no chances and make sure that you educate your child on how to become responsible digital citizens.