Setting Goals as a Family: A Fresh Start for 2025

In our last post, we explored the importance of self-reflection.  We also discussed the key areas children and teens should evaluate as the year ends.  This week, we’re extending that discussion to goal setting.  Goal setting is a meaningful activity for parents and kids alike.  It’s a perfect activity as we close out 2024 and prepare for the opportunities and challenges of 2025.

Setting goals for the new year is not just about creating a to-do list.  It’s a symbolic fresh start.  Writing these goals on paper provides clarity and direction, acting as a motivational push for both children and parents.  Some families choose to write down their goals and display them prominently at home.  Others opt for a creative approach, like making a vision board. 

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Creating Goals Together

When setting goals with your child, structure the process to make it comprehensive and enjoyable.  Divide goals into meaningful categories to ensure balance and variety in your family’s aspirations.  Here are some areas you might focus on:

Academic Goals:  What does your child want to achieve at school?  This could be improving in a subject, participating in a competition, or developing better study habits.

Financial Goals:  Introduce basic budgeting or saving for something meaningful, such as a gadget, a year-end trip, etc.

Health and Wellness Goals:  Discuss staying active, eating better, or maintaining a healthy routine.

Social Goals:  Encourage building friendships, improving communication skills, or being more supportive to peers.

Unique Experiences:  Plan adventures or activities your family hasn’t done before, like trying a new hobby,

Skill Development:  Encourage learning a new skill, such as playing an instrument, coding, baking, or driving.

Care for Self and Others:  Incorporate values like kindness, gratitude, or mindfulness into daily life.

As you guide your child in setting their goals, remember to set your own goals too.  Let this be a shared activity that fosters connection, collaboration, and mutual growth.

The Importance of Togetherness

Goal setting can be more than just a task—it can become a cherished family tradition.  Use this time to bond with your child, share dreams, and learn more about each other’s aspirations.  The goals you set now will serve as a guide for the coming year.  Moreover, they will provide a foundation for reflection at the end of 2025.

As you embark on this journey together, may the process bring your family closer, inspire growth, and set the tone for a fulfilling year ahead.  Let’s welcome 2025 with clarity, purpose, and shared determination.

The Importance of Self-Reflection

As the year draws to a close, it’s a good time to pause and reflect.  Just like adults, students have faced many experiences this year.  Some may have achieved significant milestones, while others may have encountered challenges or setbacks.  Regardless, reflecting on how we lived through 2024 is essential.  It allows us to celebrate our successes and learn from our mistakes.  As parents, we play a crucial role in guiding our children through this process of self-reflection.

Here are some key areas to consider during this reflection:

Health

Was I physically active and maintaining good fitness levels?  Did I develop or stick to healthy routines, such as regular exercise or balanced meals?  Were my sleep patterns sufficient to keep me energized throughout the day?  How well did I handle emotional challenges—did I find healthy ways to cope with stress or seek support when needed? 

Reflecting on physical and emotional health is crucial for understanding areas where improvement might be needed.

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Finances

Did I manage my money wisely this year?  Was I able to save consistently for things I wanted or needed?  Did I overspend on unnecessary items or fall into impulsive buying habits?  On the other hand, did I reward myself responsibly for my hard work?  

Financial habits developed at a young age can set the tone for how money is managed later in life.

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Social Life

Did I make efforts to build new friendships or strengthen existing ones?  How often did I reconnect with people who matter to me?  Was I kind, helpful, or supportive to others in my community?  Did I participate in charitable activities or take the time to assist those in need?  

Reflecting on social relationships helps students assess their empathy, kindness, and communication skills.

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Academics

Did I develop better study techniques that improved my learning?  Did I manage my time well when it came to schoolwork and assignments?  Am I closer to achieving my main academic goals, such as excelling in a subject or improving my grades?  Did I take the initiative to learn a new skill or pursue a personal interest outside of school?

Academic reflection encourages students to recognize their progress and identify areas for growth.

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Self-reflection is a vital skill because it helps us become more self-aware and intentional about our choices. Many students lack the ability to reflect deeply on their own, so it’s important for parents to support and guide them through this process. As you help your child reflect, consider taking the opportunity to do your own self-reflection as well. Together, you can end the year with a clearer sense of growth and purpose.

Guiding Children Toward Environmental Awareness

Many places around the world are heavily affected by environmental changes.  Rainy seasons cause severe flooding in some areas, while summer temperatures reach scorching levels in others.  These extreme weather patterns highlight the pressing need to address environmental issues.  This also puts to the forefront the role of education in preparing our children to respond responsibly.  No child is too young to start learning about caring for the planet.  Even small conversations and simple actions can make a lasting impression.  These can help kids develop an early awareness of the world around them.

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Here are some reasons why raising environmental awareness in our kids is important now more than ever.  We also briefly talk about  how you can do this in your simple ways as parents and guardians: 

Awareness.  First, even at a young age, children need to see the real challenges our planet is facing.  Issues like pollution, climate change, and deforestation may be difficult for them to fully grasp.  However, even a surface-awareness of such issues opens their eyes to problems they might not have thought about.  If a news pops up on your timeline, talk to your children about it.  That is a good start in planting in them a seed of responsibility for the world they live in. 

Small Actions.  When we teach kids about sustainability, they can start making small, impactful changes like recycling, conserving water, and reducing waste. These are habits that, with our guidance, can stay with them into adulthood.  For instance, explain to your child why you prefer bringing a water bottle instead of buying water in single-use bottles.  This makes them see that they can do something about an issue that seems too big for them to tackle.

Active Participants.  Knowledge empowers kids to take part in simple, efforts like recycling at home, community clean-ups, or tree-planting activities.  When you plan for family charity involvements, consider taking part in activities where your kids can directly participate.  When children are direct participants, they can feel like they are part of something bigger.  From a small act like choosing a reusable drinking water bottle, to a bigger act of joining a community clean-up, children can see the impact that they can make. 

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By guiding our children toward environmental awareness, we’re helping them understand the world they live.  We are also nurturing their potential to become responsible, caring stewards of the planet. Each small conversation, action, and shared experience strengthens their connection to the environment.  These build their understanding of their role in protecting it. As parents and guardians, we hold the unique opportunity to plant seeds of awareness, empathy, and action that will grow with them.

Celebrating a Fruitful Year – MILCHEL Night 2024

MILCHEL Night 2024 is just around the corner, marking an annual tradition where Milchelians and staff come together to reflect on the year that is coming to a close.  This special event, held at the end of the year, serves as a celebration of the kids’ hard work.  It is also an opportunity to look back on the accomplishments we’ve achieved together.  A highlight of the night is a video that showcases the activities we’ve had throughout the year, reinforcing a sense of achievement and unity within our MILCHEL family.

At MILCHEL, we believe that education goes beyond academics and value development.  Events like this play a vital role in our kids’ success, motivating them and giving them something to look forward to after months of hard work.

MILCHEL Night is more than just a party—it holds a deeper purpose.  First and foremost, it’s a celebration of achievements.  On this night, we give out recognitions and awards to acknowledge everyone’s contributions to the hostel community and honour outstanding achievements that reflect the values we teach.  Secondly, it’s an opportunity to practice social skills.  With games and great food, it’s a chance to unwind and enjoy quality time with friends.  Finally, the night serves as a moment of stress relief.  Both students and staff can let their hair down, rewarding themselves for finishing the year strong.

These aspects all contribute to community building and fostering a sense of belonging.  MILCHEL is more than just a place for academics—it is a family.  We aim to strengthen family bonds through this event.

Overall, MILCHEL Night enriches Milchelians’ learning experience in Singapore and strengthens the sense of community among students and staff alike.   We are all looking forward to enjoying the event very soon. 

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Teaching Perseverance: A Key to Lifelong Success for Children

Perseverance is the ability to keep trying and not give up, even when things are difficult or take a long time to achieve.  It is one of Milchel’s 5 Key traits that we endeavour to teach Milchelians.  Perseverance can be trained in kids, and parents play a crucial role in doing this.  This trait is useful to kids as they study, and later on in their adult life as productive members of the society.

Firstly, parents should model perseverance.  Children learn a lot from what they see from their parents.  You can show perseverance by setting goals and working toward them consistently.  You can also share your experiences to your children and highlight those instances when you overcame a difficulty by being perseverant.   

Secondly, guide your child to set challenging but attainable goals.  This need not be only school-related.  This can be in the chores they do at home, or in their other sports or hobbies.  Help them to break their major tasks into smaller steps so that when they experience satisfaction, they will be more motivated to continue towards their goal. 

Finally, you can teach a child perseverance by providing them with opportunities to face challenges. As parents, it is our automatic response to shelter our kids and protect them from difficulties.  However, allowing them to face some difficulties could be helpful.  When they realise that they can overcome challenges by themselves, they learn to be persistent and their confidence grows.

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It’s important to realise, too, that perseverance is not only applicable to studies.  There are many other areas where a child can learn and practise perseverance.  When kids learn perseverance through these non-academic areas, it will naturally transfer to their academic attitude.

Sports, music, and arts are areas that require consistent practice and effort. Skills develop gradually too, instead of instantly.  The perseverance learned through activities in these areas can easily translate to perseverance in academics.

Household chores are also a good training for kids to learn perseverance.  Tasks involved in the household teach kids the importance of finishing a task, no matter how tedious it may be.  It helps them develop a work ethic that is very similar to what they can apply in their academic work. 

When parents consistently encourage perseverance in multiple aspects of their child’s life, they equip the young with the resilience they need to handle academic challenges. They’ll learn that the process of sticking with something, even when it’s hard, is what ultimately leads to success.

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The Power of Academic Goal Setting for Children

Imagine walking into a dark room, fumbling to find your way. Without light, it’s almost impossible to know where you’re going, let alone reach your destination. Goal setting serves as the light that helps our children navigate their academic journey. As parents, it’s our responsibility to help them define these goals, providing guidance and encouragement to ensure they’re heading in the right direction.

Before we delve into the details of this topic, let us first clear out a common misconception about goals and another related concept – aim.  Many of us use these terms interchangeably, but there is actually an important difference between the two.  An aim is just a general intention of what one wants to achieve.  For example: “I want to do well in school.”  On the other hand, a goal is more specific and concrete.  For example, “I want to score 80% in my Science exam.”  In short, an aim is your why, while a goal is your how.  “I want to do well in school so I have to score 80% in my Science exam.”  In other words, both aims and goals are important. 

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Many students have general academic aims, but few have specific goals.  As parents, we must teach students to have specific goals so that they are more guided in their academic journey. 

So why is goal setting important for students?  Goal setting provides a clear direction and motivation.  It is like holding a map or a navigation app that tells you exactly what you need to do to get to your destination.  Goal setting also encourages ownership and responsibility.  It also builds self-confidence and a sense of accomplishment.  As we know, children who take ownership of their goals are more persistent and perseverant. 

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What happens if a student has no academic goals?  The consequences are more dire than one can imagine.  Each day will be directionless with students lacking focus.  There will be problems in time management and self-organisation.  This leads to poor academic performance.  Issues such as tardiness and absenteeism may arise too, for students will have reduced motivation and no sense of purpose.  It will be a challenge for the child to go to school every day.  Furthermore, it will be a challenge for the parents and guardians to guide a student with no academic aims, more so academic goals. 

Goal setting is the key to unlocking your child’s full academic potential. By helping them set clear, attainable goals, we guide their academic progress.  We also teach them valuable life skills that extend far beyond the classroom. With the end-of-year-exams just around the corner, let’s ensure our children are equipped with the tools they need to navigate their educational journey with purpose and confidence.

How Doing Charity Work Shapes a Child’s Character?

Here in Milchel, all our activities and programs are anchored on our 7 Milchel Core Values and 5 Key Traits.  One of the major activities we have every year, sometimes even multiple times a year, is doing charity work.  This is guided by our core value COMPASSION. 

We believe that doing charity work does not only help the beneficiaries, but also helps develop our children’s character. 

First of all, when children participate in planning and executing a charity work, they learn empathy.  They get exposed to different life situations and struggles.  Because of that, they understand the challenges that other people face.  They also develop a caring attitude as they see the positive impact of their effort on those in need. 

Next, children who participate in charity learn responsibility and accountability.  In a charity event, children are assigned tasks.  Then, they learn to be responsible for their roles in order to contribute to the project at hand.  They learn to be dependable when they realize that their contributions are crucial to the success of a charity event. 

Finally,  children learn gratitude and appreciation when they participate in a charity event.  Witnessing the challenges faced by others fosters a sense of gratitude for one’s own circumstances and resources.  They also learn to appreciate the efforts of others, as well as see the value of community support and generosity. 

Throughout the years, Milchelians have extended help to different beneficiaries.  They have helped elderly individuals, orphans, and troubled teens.  They’ve also helped animals, impoverished communities, and religious group, among others.  Their contributions have gone beyond financial support to include their time, effort, and energy for worthy causes. We are proud of all Milchelians and hope they continue to embrace this compassionate attitude as they grow and mature.

Responsible Digital Citizenship in Children 

Nowadays, internet is a ubiquitous tool in our lives.  It is widely used in areas like communication and social networking.  It is also used in education, e-commerce and shopping, entertainment, and work and productivity, to name a few.  For both us, adults, and our kids, the internet is a useful tool. 

As such, the world of the internet is also an area where kids need guidance as they use and explore.  The term “responsible digital citizenship” is now being commonly used.  It refers to responsible and ethical online behaviour that we all must practice.  Doing this helps us to have a healthy and safe experience in the digital world. 

There are many reasons why we parents should teach our children responsible digital citizenship.  In this article, we will talk about the most cause of concern for growing kids. 

First, addiction to gadgets and the internet is a major concern of many parents.  Excessive screen time affects children’s sleep, academics, and over-all habits, so this is a foremost concern that parents must address.  If left unchecked, this could lead to addiction that is much difficult to correct.

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Second is the spread of misinformation.  Without our guidance, children can access volumes of information online that may be untrue or just plain harmful.  It is our responsibility as adults to block suspicious sites and sources of information.  We must also teach our kids to be discerning in what they see online.  Keep an open communication so your child knows to ask you for things that they find out online.

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Finally, children must know that their actions online leave permanent digital footprint.  Educate them about the consequences of their online actions that may harm themselves or others.  A seemingly harmless post today may have consequences in the future.  Because of this, we must always remind our children to “think before you click”.

These are just some of the dangers awaiting our children online.  These are also why we should take a proactive role in educating our kids about responsible digital citizenship.  Sometimes, we parents become too relaxed in our children’s access to the internet.  This is a very serious matter that demands our watchful guidance.  Take no chances and make sure that you educate your child on how to become responsible digital citizens.   

Why Is Self-Awareness Important?

The idea of self-awareness has been gaining popularity recently, appearing in many articles, videos, and social media content. This interest is well-justified, as self-awareness is crucial across all stages of life. It plays a significant role in adults’ work, family life, social interactions, and personal growth. Similarly, self-awareness is essential for teens as they mature and build their identity, as well as for school-age children who are learning values and habits that will shape their lives.

To begin with, why is self-awareness important? Imagine a baby crying, and you don’t know how to soothe them. You can’t calm the baby because you lack awareness of what they need—are they hungry or in pain? This scenario illustrates how awareness is vital for addressing a situation effectively. Similarly, if you don’t know which of your behaviours need improvement (having awareness), how can you improve?

Let’s apply this to students. If a teen is unaware that their poor eating habits are causing physical issues, how can they improve? How will they be motivated to change if they don’t recognize the problem? The same applies to students who are unaware of their unhealthy attachment to gadgets leading to poor school performance. Without awareness of the issue, they won’t take steps to address it.

In simple terms, self-awareness is the starting point for any positive behaviour change. This is why AWARENESS is the first of Milchel’s 5 Key Traits (Awareness, Discipline, Responsibility, Perseverance, Confidence).

Children and teens may not always have high self-awareness, so adults should step in and guide them when their lack of awareness affects them. By nurturing self-awareness in the younger generations, we pave the way for them to develop healthier habits and a better understanding of themselves and their surroundings. In turn, this creates a more mindful and compassionate society for all. As adults, maintaining high self-awareness not only helps us lead by example, but it also allows us to navigate our own lives with greater clarity and purpose.

Benefits of MILCHEL English Reading Program

Fondly referred to by Milchelians as ERP, the English Reading Program is an integral  part of our Academic Services here at MILCHEL.   Over the years, ERP has evolved but our core objective remains the same:  increase Milchelians’ exposure to English-language texts. 

At the heart of ERP lies an approach that goes beyond conventional methods of language instruction. Through carefully curated group sessions, we strive to improve English proficiency.  Moreover, we strive to foster a deep appreciation for the written word among Milchelians.

Every Monday through Thursday, Milchelians gather virtually on Zoom.  They form groups based on their English-speaking standards. Guided by a dedicated facilitator-teacher, each session unfolds with a sense of anticipation of the texts for the day.

The format that ERP takes on is simple yet effective.  Students take turns reading passages from selected texts, while the facilitator provides real-time feedback and guidance. Pronunciation errors are corrected, complex passages are simplified for comprehension, and unfamiliar vocabulary is explained.  This way, we ensure that every participant gains a thorough understanding of the material.

Furthermore, ERP is more than just a reading program.  It hopes that through engaging discussions and interactive activities, Milchelians not only enhance their language skills but also develop critical thinking abilities and confidence in expressing themselves in English.

One of the most remarkable outcomes of ERP is the newfound confidence that Milchelians develop. As they conquer linguistic challenges and navigate complex texts, they discover a sense of self-assurance that transcends language barriers.

Moreover, ERP serves as a gateway to a lifelong love of reading. In a world where digital distractions abound, instilling a passion for literature is more important than ever. By immersing students in a wide array of English-language texts, ERP ignites in Milchelians a curiosity for learning. 

Finally, perhaps the greatest testament to ERP’s impact lies in the transformation it brings about in Milchelians.  We take so much delight when Milchelians, after a holiday break, asks us excitedly, “When will ERP start?” From hesitant readers to avid learners, participants emerge from the program with a newfound appreciation for the power of language and the joy of discovering new worlds through words.

In closing, as we continue to uphold our commitment to excellence in Milchelians’ academics, ERP stands as an example of dedication. By providing a nurturing environment where Milchelians can make mistakes and learn, we allow them to thrive and develop a healthy interaction with the English language.  Such will help them reach their full potential in this vast society where the ability to communicate is one’s greatest asset.