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The Importance of Self-Reflection

As the year draws to a close, it’s a good time to pause and reflect.  Just like adults, students have faced many experiences this year.  Some may have achieved significant milestones, while others may have encountered challenges or setbacks.  Regardless, reflecting on how we lived through 2024 is essential.  It allows us to celebrate our successes and learn from our mistakes.  As parents, we play a crucial role in guiding our children through this process of self-reflection.

Here are some key areas to consider during this reflection:

Health

Was I physically active and maintaining good fitness levels?  Did I develop or stick to healthy routines, such as regular exercise or balanced meals?  Were my sleep patterns sufficient to keep me energized throughout the day?  How well did I handle emotional challenges—did I find healthy ways to cope with stress or seek support when needed? 

Reflecting on physical and emotional health is crucial for understanding areas where improvement might be needed.

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Finances

Did I manage my money wisely this year?  Was I able to save consistently for things I wanted or needed?  Did I overspend on unnecessary items or fall into impulsive buying habits?  On the other hand, did I reward myself responsibly for my hard work?  

Financial habits developed at a young age can set the tone for how money is managed later in life.

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Social Life

Did I make efforts to build new friendships or strengthen existing ones?  How often did I reconnect with people who matter to me?  Was I kind, helpful, or supportive to others in my community?  Did I participate in charitable activities or take the time to assist those in need?  

Reflecting on social relationships helps students assess their empathy, kindness, and communication skills.

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Academics

Did I develop better study techniques that improved my learning?  Did I manage my time well when it came to schoolwork and assignments?  Am I closer to achieving my main academic goals, such as excelling in a subject or improving my grades?  Did I take the initiative to learn a new skill or pursue a personal interest outside of school?

Academic reflection encourages students to recognize their progress and identify areas for growth.

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Self-reflection is a vital skill because it helps us become more self-aware and intentional about our choices. Many students lack the ability to reflect deeply on their own, so it’s important for parents to support and guide them through this process. As you help your child reflect, consider taking the opportunity to do your own self-reflection as well. Together, you can end the year with a clearer sense of growth and purpose.

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Making the Most of Your Children’s School Holiday

With the year-end school holidays upon us, it’s time for children to enjoy a well-deserved break after a year of hard work. If you’re a parent of a MILCHELian enjoying this holiday season, read on for tips to make the most of this precious time together.

First of all, children are naturally drawn to gadgets and could easily spend all day on screens if allowed. But you can guide them towards more meaningful activities by planning, suggesting, or even joining in! Every family has different levels of flexibility and availability, so remember, it’s all about balancing your responsibilities at home and work.

The single best tip is to focus on quality of activities over quantity. Quality means asking a few key questions: Will you spend time with your child in person? Will this activity expose them to new learning experiences? Will they have the chance to try or see something new? If so, it’s a great choice.

An overseas trip is a wonderful way to spend quality time together. First, traveling brings the family together in a new setting and encourages bonding. Secondly, it offers new cultural and culinary experiences that expand your child’s view of the world. Finally, whether it’s a first-time visit or a favourite destination, there’s always something exciting and fresh to see.

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But if a trip abroad isn’t possible, there are many ways to create meaningful memories close to home. For one, you can take your child to a theatre play and introduce them to the world of performing arts. Attend a concert featuring a band they admire and show that you value their interests. Furthermore, you can try a new restaurant together, sharing a new culinary experience, or cook something special at home. Let your kids join in on grocery shopping, meal prep, and even cleanup. Finally, for a cozy option, start a movie marathon or a new series together on your favourite streaming platform.

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The options are endless, and there’s no shortage of ways to spend meaningful time with your children this holiday season. We hope these ideas inspire you to create joyful and memorable experiences with your family this year-end!

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Guiding Children Toward Environmental Awareness

Many places around the world are heavily affected by environmental changes.  Rainy seasons cause severe flooding in some areas, while summer temperatures reach scorching levels in others.  These extreme weather patterns highlight the pressing need to address environmental issues.  This also puts to the forefront the role of education in preparing our children to respond responsibly.  No child is too young to start learning about caring for the planet.  Even small conversations and simple actions can make a lasting impression.  These can help kids develop an early awareness of the world around them.

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Here are some reasons why raising environmental awareness in our kids is important now more than ever.  We also briefly talk about  how you can do this in your simple ways as parents and guardians: 

Awareness.  First, even at a young age, children need to see the real challenges our planet is facing.  Issues like pollution, climate change, and deforestation may be difficult for them to fully grasp.  However, even a surface-awareness of such issues opens their eyes to problems they might not have thought about.  If a news pops up on your timeline, talk to your children about it.  That is a good start in planting in them a seed of responsibility for the world they live in. 

Small Actions.  When we teach kids about sustainability, they can start making small, impactful changes like recycling, conserving water, and reducing waste. These are habits that, with our guidance, can stay with them into adulthood.  For instance, explain to your child why you prefer bringing a water bottle instead of buying water in single-use bottles.  This makes them see that they can do something about an issue that seems too big for them to tackle.

Active Participants.  Knowledge empowers kids to take part in simple, efforts like recycling at home, community clean-ups, or tree-planting activities.  When you plan for family charity involvements, consider taking part in activities where your kids can directly participate.  When children are direct participants, they can feel like they are part of something bigger.  From a small act like choosing a reusable drinking water bottle, to a bigger act of joining a community clean-up, children can see the impact that they can make. 

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By guiding our children toward environmental awareness, we’re helping them understand the world they live.  We are also nurturing their potential to become responsible, caring stewards of the planet. Each small conversation, action, and shared experience strengthens their connection to the environment.  These build their understanding of their role in protecting it. As parents and guardians, we hold the unique opportunity to plant seeds of awareness, empathy, and action that will grow with them.

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Celebrating a Fruitful Year – MILCHEL Night 2024

MILCHEL Night 2024 is just around the corner, marking an annual tradition where Milchelians and staff come together to reflect on the year that is coming to a close.  This special event, held at the end of the year, serves as a celebration of the kids’ hard work.  It is also an opportunity to look back on the accomplishments we’ve achieved together.  A highlight of the night is a video that showcases the activities we’ve had throughout the year, reinforcing a sense of achievement and unity within our MILCHEL family.

At MILCHEL, we believe that education goes beyond academics and value development.  Events like this play a vital role in our kids’ success, motivating them and giving them something to look forward to after months of hard work.

MILCHEL Night is more than just a party—it holds a deeper purpose.  First and foremost, it’s a celebration of achievements.  On this night, we give out recognitions and awards to acknowledge everyone’s contributions to the hostel community and honour outstanding achievements that reflect the values we teach.  Secondly, it’s an opportunity to practice social skills.  With games and great food, it’s a chance to unwind and enjoy quality time with friends.  Finally, the night serves as a moment of stress relief.  Both students and staff can let their hair down, rewarding themselves for finishing the year strong.

These aspects all contribute to community building and fostering a sense of belonging.  MILCHEL is more than just a place for academics—it is a family.  We aim to strengthen family bonds through this event.

Overall, MILCHEL Night enriches Milchelians’ learning experience in Singapore and strengthens the sense of community among students and staff alike.   We are all looking forward to enjoying the event very soon. 

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Teaching Perseverance: A Key to Lifelong Success for Children

Perseverance is the ability to keep trying and not give up, even when things are difficult or take a long time to achieve.  It is one of Milchel’s 5 Key traits that we endeavour to teach Milchelians.  Perseverance can be trained in kids, and parents play a crucial role in doing this.  This trait is useful to kids as they study, and later on in their adult life as productive members of the society.

Firstly, parents should model perseverance.  Children learn a lot from what they see from their parents.  You can show perseverance by setting goals and working toward them consistently.  You can also share your experiences to your children and highlight those instances when you overcame a difficulty by being perseverant.   

Secondly, guide your child to set challenging but attainable goals.  This need not be only school-related.  This can be in the chores they do at home, or in their other sports or hobbies.  Help them to break their major tasks into smaller steps so that when they experience satisfaction, they will be more motivated to continue towards their goal. 

Finally, you can teach a child perseverance by providing them with opportunities to face challenges. As parents, it is our automatic response to shelter our kids and protect them from difficulties.  However, allowing them to face some difficulties could be helpful.  When they realise that they can overcome challenges by themselves, they learn to be persistent and their confidence grows.

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It’s important to realise, too, that perseverance is not only applicable to studies.  There are many other areas where a child can learn and practise perseverance.  When kids learn perseverance through these non-academic areas, it will naturally transfer to their academic attitude.

Sports, music, and arts are areas that require consistent practice and effort. Skills develop gradually too, instead of instantly.  The perseverance learned through activities in these areas can easily translate to perseverance in academics.

Household chores are also a good training for kids to learn perseverance.  Tasks involved in the household teach kids the importance of finishing a task, no matter how tedious it may be.  It helps them develop a work ethic that is very similar to what they can apply in their academic work. 

When parents consistently encourage perseverance in multiple aspects of their child’s life, they equip the young with the resilience they need to handle academic challenges. They’ll learn that the process of sticking with something, even when it’s hard, is what ultimately leads to success.

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Managing Kids’ Screen Time

In today’s digital age, screen time has become an integral part of children’s lives. While technology offers valuable learning opportunities, too much screen exposure can have negative consequences. Excessive screen time has been linked to issues like poor sleep, decreased physical activity, and impaired social skills. To ensure children grow up healthy and well-rounded, it is crucial to maintain a balanced approach to screen time and other activities.  Here are some simple strategies to manage kids’ screen time: 

Set Clear Screen Time Limits

When kids think they can use their devices for an unlimited period of time, they will happily do so.  It is important that parents set clear screen time limits for them.   As a general guide, 7 to 8-year-olds may get 1 to 1.5 hours screen time per day.  9 to 10-year-olds may get 1.5 to 2 hours per day.  11 to 12-year-olds may get 2 to 2.5 hours screen time per day.  13 to 14-year-olds may get 2.5 to 3 hours screen time per day.  15-16-year-olds may get 3 to 4 hours per day. 

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Encourage Outdoor Activities

Kids need to get outdoors, get some fresh air, and be exposed to some sun.  Get them away from their gadgets by engaging in outdoor activities.  This can be as simple as walking around or playing sports.  These activities need not be competitive.  You don’t even need to get a sports coach if you don’t want to.  Put on your shoes and spend some outdoor time with your kids.  This will be good not only for them, but also for you. 

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Designate Tech-Free Zones

There are times when outdoor activities are not possible, so there’s no choice but to stay indoors.  When this happens, you can assign tech-free zones at home.  Tech-free zones are places where kids and adults are not allowed to use gadgets.  A common tech-free zone at home is the dining area and the bed.  During meal times, discourage phone usage and encourage healthy conversations among family members.  During bedtime, try not to let kids use their gadgets so they can be ready for a good night’s rest. 

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Maintaining a healthy balance between screen time and other activities is essential for children’s physical, emotional, and social development. By setting clear limits and encouraging outdoor activities parents can help their kids cultivate a well-rounded lifestyle. Creating screen-free spaces will further reinforce the importance of balance. With these strategies in place, children can enjoy the benefits of technology without sacrificing their health and well-being.

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The Power of Academic Goal Setting for Children

Imagine walking into a dark room, fumbling to find your way. Without light, it’s almost impossible to know where you’re going, let alone reach your destination. Goal setting serves as the light that helps our children navigate their academic journey. As parents, it’s our responsibility to help them define these goals, providing guidance and encouragement to ensure they’re heading in the right direction.

Before we delve into the details of this topic, let us first clear out a common misconception about goals and another related concept – aim.  Many of us use these terms interchangeably, but there is actually an important difference between the two.  An aim is just a general intention of what one wants to achieve.  For example: “I want to do well in school.”  On the other hand, a goal is more specific and concrete.  For example, “I want to score 80% in my Science exam.”  In short, an aim is your why, while a goal is your how.  “I want to do well in school so I have to score 80% in my Science exam.”  In other words, both aims and goals are important. 

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Many students have general academic aims, but few have specific goals.  As parents, we must teach students to have specific goals so that they are more guided in their academic journey. 

So why is goal setting important for students?  Goal setting provides a clear direction and motivation.  It is like holding a map or a navigation app that tells you exactly what you need to do to get to your destination.  Goal setting also encourages ownership and responsibility.  It also builds self-confidence and a sense of accomplishment.  As we know, children who take ownership of their goals are more persistent and perseverant. 

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What happens if a student has no academic goals?  The consequences are more dire than one can imagine.  Each day will be directionless with students lacking focus.  There will be problems in time management and self-organisation.  This leads to poor academic performance.  Issues such as tardiness and absenteeism may arise too, for students will have reduced motivation and no sense of purpose.  It will be a challenge for the child to go to school every day.  Furthermore, it will be a challenge for the parents and guardians to guide a student with no academic aims, more so academic goals. 

Goal setting is the key to unlocking your child’s full academic potential. By helping them set clear, attainable goals, we guide their academic progress.  We also teach them valuable life skills that extend far beyond the classroom. With the end-of-year-exams just around the corner, let’s ensure our children are equipped with the tools they need to navigate their educational journey with purpose and confidence.

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How Doing Charity Work Shapes a Child’s Character?

Here in Milchel, all our activities and programs are anchored on our 7 Milchel Core Values and 5 Key Traits.  One of the major activities we have every year, sometimes even multiple times a year, is doing charity work.  This is guided by our core value COMPASSION. 

We believe that doing charity work does not only help the beneficiaries, but also helps develop our children’s character. 

First of all, when children participate in planning and executing a charity work, they learn empathy.  They get exposed to different life situations and struggles.  Because of that, they understand the challenges that other people face.  They also develop a caring attitude as they see the positive impact of their effort on those in need. 

Next, children who participate in charity learn responsibility and accountability.  In a charity event, children are assigned tasks.  Then, they learn to be responsible for their roles in order to contribute to the project at hand.  They learn to be dependable when they realize that their contributions are crucial to the success of a charity event. 

Finally,  children learn gratitude and appreciation when they participate in a charity event.  Witnessing the challenges faced by others fosters a sense of gratitude for one’s own circumstances and resources.  They also learn to appreciate the efforts of others, as well as see the value of community support and generosity. 

Throughout the years, Milchelians have extended help to different beneficiaries.  They have helped elderly individuals, orphans, and troubled teens.  They’ve also helped animals, impoverished communities, and religious group, among others.  Their contributions have gone beyond financial support to include their time, effort, and energy for worthy causes. We are proud of all Milchelians and hope they continue to embrace this compassionate attitude as they grow and mature.

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Character Development and Academic Success

Aside from physical health, there are two other utmost concerns of parents when it comes to their children.  These are their character development and academic success. We all want our children to grow up as good people who possess qualities like kindness, responsibility, and integrity.  At the same time, we hope for their academic success so they can have a bright future ahead of them. This article will explore how character development and academic success are intertwined, with the former influencing the latter.

To delve into this concept, we will examine three character traits that a child must possess and how they contribute to academic success: self-discipline, resilience, and empathy.

First, self-discipline leads to better time management and study habits. Self-disciplined children are more likely to complete their schoolwork on time and balance their academic responsibilities with other aspects of their lives. Overall, consistent effort driven by self-discipline results in improved academic performance.

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Second, resilience helps students persist through difficulties and setbacks they encounter in their studies. When they receive poor grades or fail an exam, resilient children bounce back instead of giving up. A child with a strong sense of resilience views challenges as opportunities for growth, leading to long-term success.

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Finally, empathy enables students to collaborate effectively with their peers. This ability to work well in groups is a crucial skill in today’s academic environment. For instance, group projects and peer learning benefit greatly when students practice understanding and respect. Over time, strong collaborative skills, developed through empathy, contribute to success not only academically but also in future professional settings.

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In conclusion, these are just three examples of how character traits contribute to academic success. Indeed, character development is as important as the grades we see in our children’s report books. Therefore, fostering character development from an early age should be a priority for both parents and educators, as it directly impacts children’s academic success.

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Overcoming Communication Barriers with Your Teen

There are times when a child, especially a teen, stops talking to their parents.  Such withdrawal is concerning and very challenging.  Possible reasons for such behaviour are: the teen is seeking independence; the teen is experiencing emotional changes; the teen is experiencing stress and anxiety and could not express it well; there are conflicts and misunderstandings at home; and the teen may be feeling unsupported or judged and thus shuts other people down. 

When this happens, it is understandable for a parent to be worried.  Still, you have to step back and analyse the situation.  There is no one single solution to this problem, so we’ll talk about a three-pronged approach that could possibly work. 

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First, reflect on your communication style.  We always talk about teens needing to have self-awareness, but parents need to have high self-awareness too. Are you harsh and judgmental when you speak to your teen?  Do you focus too much on the negatives and downplay their achievements?  Are you impatient?  There are times when a child’s actions are just their response to their parents’ actions.  Reflect on your communication style and see if you could be part of the problem. 

Next, after reflecting on your communication style, create a safe and open environment for your child.  Ensure that your home is a safe and judgement-free space where your teen will feel comfortable to talk.  Truly allot time listening to your child.  Keep your gadgets away and give your teen your full attention.  Try not to aim so solve the issue immediately.  Sometimes, it may take a while for your child to really open up.  Patience is key. 

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Finally, if all else fails, it may be time to involve a trusted third party.  It could be your parents or your siblings.  Sometimes, teens may find it easier to open up to someone outside the family.  You can get help from your pastor, a therapist, or a counsellor.  Sometimes, a third party can be like a coach who can see your family issues from a different, unbiased perspective.  They may be able to facilitate you and your child patching up your relationship since they will not be taking anyone’s side. 

Remember, the goal is to reconnect with your teenager and create an environment where they feel safe and valued. While the journey may be challenging, patience, self-reflection, and the willingness to seek external support can make a significant difference. By understanding the underlying reasons for their withdrawal and taking proactive steps, you can rebuild your relationship and foster a more open communication with your teen.